Single Aide, 51

Divorced Tanesha, 52

Divorced Rocio, 20

is deciding when to be "right" and when to be "happy." Right is making him pay (or not) his tickets and suffer the consequences if he doesn't. But that affects you Wife want real sex King And Queen Court House and the too, lots of $$, having to go get the car out of impound, so maybe being right in that situation isn't so great. being happy is taking the minutes to write the check, ticket is the minimum, you've saved tons of money and you have two cars in the household. In this specific incident, just put "paying tickets" and bills,etc, as something you're better at. The effort is minor (paying the -) the results are big. Some things the effort isn't so minor, this is not a "do everything for him" thing, but more about picking your battles. If you're gonna be the nag, make it about doing stuff with the, (I totally agree with taking a class and just making the announcement and make that "class" be from 4-8 so he has to fix dinner, don't complain if it's frozen waffles, and get the into bed) don't pretend to ignore the things that aren't perfect, pick some to actually ignore. Right vs happy is not a hard and fast rule, but it's a way to look at things that make things easier. For you I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. When you mentioned you had to pack for him, immediately I went to the "where's my blue shirt? You didn't pack my blue shirt?" incident ..I don't even have to describe it, you know the story you know my response contains the words "fucking blue shirt" and do it your fucking self" :) Married Lawana, 24

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